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For the 3-4 years I have done a yearly trip for the industry we all work in with 3 friends. The trip is 10 days, and it’s long, stressful and exhausting but really fun overall. I [F33] normally book our apartment, and it is shared with my friends Rosie [F32], Lisa [F40] and Matt [M33].

Unfortunately for the past 2 years, Lisa has proven to be a nightmare roommate. She has repeatedly locked us out of the apartment (we had one key and she kept falling asleep inside), ate other peoples’ food and used their toiletries without asking,

left the apartment a mess (toothpaste all over the sink, vomit and poop in the toilet bowl), and left a bag of trash and a broken bottle outside the apartment which she didn’t clean up (which would have forfeited my deposit and potentially impacted my Airbnb rating had I not done it for her). On top of this she gets quite drunk and someone usually has to babysit her.

We confronted her about her behaviour in 2024 when it first happened and she apologised and said she would be more considerate in future. We gave her the benefit of the doubt and roomed with her again last year, but she was even worse.

We were extremely angry and did confront her, and did asked if there was anything else going on that was causing her behaviour. She said no, apologised again and we haven’t spoken about it since.

It’s coming up to the time when we have to book for this year’s trip. Rosie, Matt and I do not want to stay with Lisa. We still will be doing the work trip, but we are hoping to room just the three of us.

Getting individual places is not an option as the accommodation costs are extremely high in the location, you have to find somewhere as a group to be able to afford the trip. However, none of us know how to explain this to Lisa. We know it’s a horrible thing to hear people don’t want to stay with you on a trip even though we feel our reasons are valid.

This is complicated by the fact I also work with Lisa (Rosie and Matt do not, but we collectively are all friends with her), so I have to communicate with her weekly. I do like her as a person, but I just cannot face another 10 days of her as the world’s worst roommate in what is already a stressful work environment. Does anyone have advice on how we might handle it?

TL;DR: My friend is an awful roommate on our work trip and I need to break it to her I can’t share a place with her again.